But some of those chismosos aren’t chismosos at all. They are people who went through their own relationship battles in court, and they know exactly what Depp and Heard are going through. They might not own several houses, host high-dollar parties, enjoy international travel and employ security guards, but unhealthy relationships? Those are everywhere.

Depp is suing his ex-wife for defamation, saying his career was ruined after she wrote an opinion piece about domestic violence that appeared in the Washington Post. Their situation seems as big as the Hollywood sign, but every divorce is overwhelming to people whose lives are turned upside down.

Anonymity doesn’t make things less painful. The media might not be interested in everything both parties have to say, but friends and family hear every last word, every painful accusation, every angry implication. Former suegros take sides and mutual friends keep their distance, just in case. Powerless loved ones look on while decisions that will forever change holiday gatherings and birthday celebrations are made by mediators they will never meet. Even when divorce is the right decision, we can all agree that too many of us have had a front-row seat to this kind of show.

So maybe, while Depp and Heard are in the spotlight, we can take a moment to talk with our less-famous loved ones who have been there, too. A little understanding can help the wounded start to heal. Perhaps a couple in trouble can stop hurting before things get out of hand. Maybe we can tell our young sons and daughters who have yet to meet the loves of their lives how to spot the red flags.

It might seem like theatrics when the players are actors, but when it’s in your living room, it becomes clear that it isn’t just for show.