Deborah James tells husband to ‘move on’ but begs him not to marry a ‘bimbo’
Deborah James has revealed she’s given her husband “strict instructions” to move on following her death, but begged him not to marry a “bimbo”.
The BBC podcaster, now 40, was just 35 years old when she diagnosed with stage three bowel cancer in December 2016, which went on to become stage four.
Since then, she has tirelessly campaigned to bring awareness to the disease, some of that through her Instagram account @bowelbabe.
It was on this platform that the mother-of-two, who shares Hugo, 14, and Eloise, 12, with Sebastian, announced that her “body isn’t playing ball” and that she’d been moved to hospice care at home, adding: “Nobody knows how long I’ve got left”.
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Now, in an interview with The Times, Deborah has revealed she’s given her blessing for her husband to “move on” following her death.
“I don’t think I have ever seen my husband so emotional; but now he has suddenly realised the enormity of this,” she explained.
Deborah continued: “I have given him strict instructions: I want him to move on.
“He’s a handsome man, I’m, like, ‘Don’t be taken for a ride, don’t marry a bimbo, find someone else who can make you laugh like we did [together].’”
She went on to gush over her supportive husband, who has been carrying her everywhere as she’s become “too weak” to use her legs.
“My husband Sebastien has been incredible, he has dropped everything and is with me 24/7,” Deborah said, before explaining she didn’t want their two children to see her in this state.
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She said: “My first thought was [that] I don’t want my children to see me like this. I didn’t think I would be able to speak to them without crying, but I’d love one last cuddle with them.”
Despite this, she’s sure that her kids are “doing really well” as they lead busy lives at secondary school, where they board.
Hugo and Eloise even send her messages saying: “Sorry I can’t call you tonight,” which she believes is “great”.
“They can function without me,” she explained.
Deborah then shared what she wants her final moments to look like as she added: “I want to die listening to my family, I just want to hear their banter and the normal buzz of life as I go.”
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